Death Is Not the End: Healing Your Heart After Loss

By Derek McGillivray – A Happy Medium

Grief is something none of us are ever truly prepared for.
One moment life feels steady… and the next, it can be turned upside down by the loss of someone we love.

Recently, one of my clients lost her husband. She described feeling like she was walking through fog — broken-hearted, numb, and unsure how to move forward.

I wrote the following poem for her — and for anyone going through loss — as a reminder that death is not the end… and love never leaves us.

 A Healing Poem

When love is deep, it never dies,
It lingers softly, like the skies.
Though hands let go, and voices fade,
The bond you shared will never fray.

He walks beside you, day by day,
In whispered winds, in sunlit ray.
In quiet moments, when tears fall,
His love will gently hear your call.

Grief may ache, but time will show,
The seeds of love still bloom and grow.
Though paths divide, hearts intertwine,
His soul is yours, and yours is mine.

So take each step with gentle grace,
He shines through every sacred space.
Not gone, just moved—his spirit near,
Forever loved, forever here.

Understanding Grief

Grief can show up in so many ways — sadness, anger, guilt, numbness, or even laughter at old memories.
It’s not linear. Some days you may feel strong; others you may crumble. And that’s okay.

Here are a few gentle truths to hold onto:

•  There is no “right” way to grieve. Everyone’s journey is unique.

• There is no time limit on grief. Healing takes as long as it takes.

•  It’s okay to ask for help — grief is heavy, and you don’t have to carry it alone.

• Your loved one’s spirit and love remain — even if their physical presence is gone.

Holistic Ways to Support Your Healing

When you’re grieving, your mind, body, and soul are all affected. Holistic therapies can gently help you cope and find moments of peace as you move forward:

• Reiki & Energy Healing — releases emotional blockages and brings deep relaxation

• Reflexology or Foot Whispering — grounds your energy and calms your nervous system

• Mindfulness & Meditation — creates safe spaces to feel and process emotions

• Massage & Aromatherapy — nurtures the body when words aren’t enough

Holistic healing doesn’t erase grief… but it can bring balance back to your system, helping you find your feet again as you gently rebuild your life.

You Are Not Alone

Grief can feel isolating — but you are not alone, and support is out there whenever you need it.

Here are some wonderful organisations offering free bereavement help:

• Cruse Bereavement Support – www.cruse.org.uk

• Marie Curie Bereavement Support – www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/bereavement

• Samaritans (24/7 helpline) – Call 116 123 or visit www.samaritans.org

Moving Forward, Gently

Death is not the end.
It is simply a change of form.
The love you shared still lives within you — always.

If you would like gentle support, or to explore healing therapies to help you through this time, I am here for you.

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You don’t have to walk this path alone.
Take your time.
Breathe.
And remember — love never leaves. 

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Together, we can turn anger into peace, and forgiveness into freedom.

DEPRESSION Kills

We hear reports around the globe of the many souls that suffer depression, because of overwhelming stress. With wars, poverty, and violence going on around us is it any wonder that depression is an issue? Statistics has proven that depression links to increased heart attacks and heart disease.

Researchers have not proved that depression is the cause of heart disease, but they do feel it is a contribution. Depression is also the root for suicidal increase. Yet the fatal mistake that doctors make is over medicating the patient.

Medications not only suppress the problem, but it contributes to medical issues. The result, the problem is still there. Everyday studies are finding new information and yet the information is often tossed to the backseat while traditional treatments continue.

New studies reveal that in contrast, intellectual and in depth, research coupled with insight helps scientist understand depression. After study the mental illness, closely they concluded in one study that depression is possibly linked to existing heart diseases.

With premature death-related to heart disease caused by premature changes in women. In other words, postmenopausal issues were said to be linked. After careful research, it was shown that antidepressant drugs might cause more harm to patients.

Observers that watched these women claimed that women were at higher risk of heart attacks while inducing antidepressants. The Archives of Internal Medicines after conducting surveys claimed that more than 90,000 women over the age of fifty and out of 16 percent suffered major depression.

This was half the women, and this half was taking antidepressants. The researchers continued their studies and found that postmenopausal women suffered depression, and because of taking antidepressants, over half the women were at risk of death related to heart diseases.

In 2003, new researchers concluded that the percentage of women at risk would also be subject to fractured bones, and that more than 8,000 women over 65 were prescribed medications and the medicines had affected the central nervous system. Researchers deduced that after taking prescribed drugs for five years the women were noticeably showing risks of fracturing bones, and those that did not take the drugs lived healthier lives.

After careful studies researchers concluded that, the prescribed drugs were the linking cause of psychical symptoms.

To reduce depression, one must exercise, eat healthy, write in journals, and use self-induced analytic profiling and evaluation of self. It is extremely important that a person come to understand their handicap and deal with it.

More studies have shown that when the spine is out of alignment, or injured that it links to depression, which is often caused by stress. Often when we visit our Chiropractor, he/she can help us to get our spine back in alignment, which has proven to relieve stress and depression.

Despite the studies that concluded that antidepressants could put a patient at risk, doctors around the globe, still take out their prescription pads and start writing. Often the problem is ignored, and blame is placed on the patients, while the doctors continue prescribing.

Now you must ask the question, are you at risk? If so, you need to take care that you consult with the proper physician. Ask him to monitor your issues carefully and sway him away from prescribing antidepressants.

Stay alert to your mental health and avoid floundering, as this contributes to depression. There are solutions to any problems that will work for you. Get out of the house and socialize. Take up a sport that you may enjoy. Read a damn good book or write one yourself. Writing is a gift, an art, and a contribution to Freedom of Speech; let the words flow.

As I analysed this distraction, I concluded, that depression is a mask of broken memories backed with links to medical issues formed and ignored. The spinal and nervous system are remarkably relative if not constituting the main cause of this distraction. What happens is people that suffer fail to exercise, sit straight, bend appropriately, and so forth. The result, the spine is dislocated. When the spine is out of line, problems will arise.

Having suffered myself from back issues I know that if my back is out of alignment, I do get grumpy, moody, and frustrated. I know some of the pain killers I was on were having effect on my mental health and I was not really moving forward, it was not till I took a more holistic approach all these years ago, that I started moving forward.

Depression can kill only if you let it!

However, you should know that medication may be only one part of the treatment puzzle.  You may also need to engage in talk therapy or join a support group in order to alleviate your symptoms.  The good news is that the prognosis is good for those who’ve been diagnosed with depression.

There are of course the holistic approaches, that can work with your drugs or can be used as an alternative, I have always believed, we need to work with the NHS and doctors and together we can help our clients to deal with anxiety.

There are many services we offer from Reiki healing, counselling, life coaching, Access Bars, NLP, Hypnotherapy, regression, TFT and many more..

Instead of just popping a pill why not come for a session and see how we can help you over come your challenges and find the root cause of your issues or the negative learnt behaviours you have created, yes you! As the only person that can help you is yourself, but we can give you the tools to succeed.

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I Hold Diplomas in Life Coaching, Mindfulness based Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) advanced, Past life & this life regression, Hypnotherapy, also hold certificates in Reiki spiritual healing, advanced counselling. I am fully insured and follow national operational and ethical guidelines with in the laws of the UK.

Derek is often asked to do Motivational & Spiritual Workshops, Psychic shows and events with music from the past present & future.

His motto is ” Enlightening others to succeed through life’s challenges “